Don't know if you are all familiar with my situation but here's the Cliff notes version.
I have Muscular Dystrophy, use a wheelchair, work full-time, volunteer, advocate, yada yada. My "husband" of 9 years and I are not legally married.
Well... we are with an agency but I've also been looking into other places. I always explain the situation, I normally get a
"Sorry but we find that unmarried couples are not stable and don't get picked by BM's"
Or all the grants and loans say "husband" and "wife" "Date of marriage".
Ug... on top of that yesterday I was talking with a lawyer and he said,
"Because you are disabled your chances of being chosen by a BM are much lower."
Yes-thank you, I know! Hey, that's my life. It's harder.
"Oh you're right Mr.Lawyer man. What was I thinking? I forgot that I am damaged goods and why should I be allowed to experience the joys and pains of motherhood? My Bad! I'll just roll back under the rock I came from and you won't have any trouble outa me"
HA! I'm tough. I'm a fighter! But when it's something that is so near to my heart. Something so important, don't step on my dreams.
A birthmother will pick us. Why? Because we are awesome! Duh! So, there!